the bracelet theory

If you’ve heard of the bracelet theory before, it’s essentially a metaphor to describe the complex relationship dynamic between two people. Two individuals are figuratively connected by a bracelet; imagine a string tied around them. This connection is strong and secure until one of the two leans in a little too close. “Too close” can be achieved in many different ways, such as one person giving more attention, energy, and time to the other.

As a result, the bracelet now hangs loosely around the two. In order to strengthen the connection again, the other individual takes a step back so the string can once again remain tight around the two. A continuation of this occurrence prompts a cycle of running and chasing, giving rise to an unhealthy affinity among the two.

I care too deeply, and at times, I must remind myself to give myself the same energy as I give to others. This does not only apply to people, but the things we love.

Sometimes we need to take a step back to move forward, stronger.